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Tag: Learning from mistakes

  • Trust the Process: The Power of Perseverance and Never Giving Up

    Nothing comes from nowhere. Everything is created by someone or something. Anything that you admire that was created by someone is hours upon hours of work and years of practice. There are also the things we don’t see. Anybody who is great at what they do, anybody who is the best at what they do have struggled, have had failures, have thought about quitting and had self-doubt. There are the exception, of course, the ones that have most of the things handed to them. However, the exceptions do not stay great for a long time. They are a flash in the pan, and one hit wonder because they never learned how to be great, they never had to put the work in, the sacrifices, the failures and the redemptions. They might be admired for a short while but they are forgotten just as fast and they are few and far between.

    The greatest of them have had more lows than highs. Hank Aaron, known for hitting more home runs than any other player for three decades struck out more time than he hit the ball. Steph Curry, one of the best three point shooter in basketball, misses more than half of the three point shots he attempts. The difference between the everyday people and the great athletes and business people, they do not quit. They learn from their mistakes. They do not feel ashamed of not succeeding because they know its part of the process. Once they acquire the lesson they forget about the mistake and move on to the next task.

    Remember results take time.  Do not give up even if you don’t see results right away. If you have a vision of what the end results will look like and that makes you feel good and inspires you to be a better person, keep going. Do it for you. Do not do it for fame and money. Trust and enjoy the process because that is 99.9% of it.

    If your actions are not hurting anyone and making you a better person while nobody around you understands what you are doing, keep going. If you can’t see the benefits why you are doing something and doubt starts to creep in, trust the process. Whatever you are doing, there are benefits elsewhere that you might not see right away. Opportunities will come eventually. You’ll wonder if it’s because of all the things you’ve done in the past to get better or if it was just destiny. You’ll never know for sure but a part of you will feel it is because of all the work you put in prior.

    Always come back to it if it’s making you a better person. Keep it up if it makes you feel alive because that what life is about, living.

    Take care.

  • The Power of Being Wrong

    We avoid being wrong at all costs. There’s something about it we struggle to handle when it happens to us. Why is being wrong so embarrassing? Why do we feel the need to make an excuse every time it happens? We often say things like, “I thought you meant this,” or “I didn’t understand the question correctly.”

    Does the ego have anything to do with this? I believe so. We want to protect our reputation and appear intelligent to others. We think smart people should never be wrong and must know everything. But when we make excuses, we’re really saying: to be right is to be loved, while to be wrong is to be excluded.

    The school system reinforces this mindset. It rewards correct answers and discourages wrong ones. From a young age, we’re taught that failure is bad and success is good. You either have the answers, or you don’t—and if you don’t, you fail. There’s little recognition for effort—only results—because effort is harder to measure.

    Most people aren’t recognized for their effort, especially if their results don’t stand out. And humans love to be praised. Praise releases dopamine and serotonin—the feel-good chemicals—while being wrong can trigger adrenaline, activating the fight-or-flight response. We want to repeat the good feeling and avoid the discomfort of failure.

    It’s tough because of how we view achievement and personal development. I believe this isn’t just a modern issue but an evolutionary trait. Early humans had to be right about their environment—it was often a matter of life or death. Their bodies reacted to danger or safety, and being right meant survival.

    So if it’s part of our DNA, how do we adjust our reaction to being wrong? We practice. And we get to know ourselves. Self-awareness and repetition build self-confidence and emotional intelligence. You’ll learn that learning from mistakes isn’t as bad as you imagined—in fact, it’s where real growth happens.

    Acknowledging what you don’t know can be freeing—especially when you realize no one knows everything. Adopt a growth mindset and be willing to start as a beginner. This leads to deeper self-discovery and clarity about what you truly know and believe.

    It’s also important to be open about your mistakes. It takes courage to admit your errors and learn publicly. We often fear being mocked, but most people are too wrapped up in their own thoughts—or they’ll respect you for your humility and honesty.

    Discover. Debate. Explore. Don’t be afraid of being wrong. There’s always something to learn on the other side—if you don’t make excuses. In the end, it’s not about being perfect—it’s about being teachable, open, and growing.

    Take care.