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Tag: Doing the right thing

  • The Quiet Power of Doing the Right Thing

    Everyone looks up to someone to know how to act or respond in certain situations—for better or worse. That’s one way we learn how to interact with others. But we sometimes forget that we, too, are being watched. The choices we make matter.

    We should strive to be the kind of person others want to emulate. Be proud of who you are, what you do for others, and what you do for yourself. At the end of the day, you should be able to smile, knowing you made a difference. You learned something new, helped someone else, and got a little better. That’s something to be excited about. Because tomorrow, you get to do it all over again—another chance to improve and support others.

    It’s not just about helping people when they’re around. It’s also about doing the right thing when no one is watching. Whether you’re the CEO or working on the floor helping customers, your private actions define your character.

    Even in the quiet of your home, take care of yourself—your mind, body, and spirit. What you do in private is reflected in how you carry yourself in public. Be consistent across all areas of your life. And if there’s a part of yourself you don’t like, change it. Few things are more inspiring than someone who grows and evolves for the better.

    People change for many reasons—often to be loved, admired, or accepted. Some chase fame. But if you don’t want to change for yourself, you’ll never find what you’re truly looking for. Change only for you.

    How can you help others if you haven’t helped yourself? Be the kind of person who works on themselves—even when no one is watching. That’s when real growth happens. When you’re true to yourself, great things begin to manifest. Do the right thing. Be a good person in both private and public.

    Don’t gossip just to fit in or have something to say. There’s no such thing as “good” gossip unless it uplifts someone. Don’t repeat rumours or headlines without reflection—especially if you don’t believe them to be true.

    Marcus Aurelius wrote:

    “If it’s not right, do not do it; if it’s not true, do not say it… First, do nothing thoughtlessly or without purpose. Secondly, see that your acts are directed to a coastal end.”

    You’re in control of your actions. What others think of you is their business. But always remember—someone is looking up to you. So do the right thing. Be honest. Be respectful. Set the example.

    Take care.

  • We Don’t Get Credit for Everything — and That’s Okay

    The most famous people are often known for doing something extraordinary — either remarkable or infamous. People tend to notice only the extremes, and perhaps for good reason. We often divide the world into two halves: good or bad, generous or greedy. Few notice the people in the middle — the “good enough” ones. It’s understandable; quiet goodness isn’t flashy and, frankly, not that interesting to talk about.

    Everyone loves recognition, and it has its place — but that shouldn’t be the intent behind a kind gesture. Instead, it should come from a genuine desire to help. You feel another person’s struggle and know that a little help or encouragement can go a long way.

    That same mindset applies when we measure the value of our actions. We shouldn’t judge their worth on a grand scale. For example, we might think a small donation can’t end child hunger — but it can feed at least one person. That’s enough. That’s a start. It makes a real difference in someone’s life. You might not see it or receive thanks — and if you ever do, that’s just a byproduct. The primary reason is the quiet satisfaction of knowing you made a positive difference and helped make the world a better place.

    Those simple, small actions often go unnoticed because they don’t set us apart. When you’re in the middle, people often overlook the good and focus on the bad. People tend to remember acts of spite or revenge because they attach strong negative emotions to them. Once an emotion is tied to a person, it’s hard to shake. Good or bad, negative emotions feel like stains on the soul — trust gets lost.

    This dynamic isn’t limited to everyday life — it happens in leadership too. There are times when you hold influence or power and use it to inspire others by treating everyone with thoughtfulness and respect, regardless of who they are. Yet people often overlook this because they grow accustomed to a leader’s generosity. Unfortunately, in many cases, power corrupts — it tends to reveal people’s true colours.

    When someone resists that corruption — whether at work or in the community — few celebrate it. Not in the moment, anyway. It’s only appreciated later, when their successor turns out corrupt or different. Only then do we realize that power never corrupted them — they were simply a good human being. You don’t know what you have until it’s gone.

    Ryan Holiday wrote, “You don’t get credit for what you don’t do. You don’t get credit for the fact that you could be worse. You don’t get credit for not breaking societal norms for which the enforcement mechanisms are weak.”

    Whatever position we hold in life, we must do what is right — no matter the circumstance. We must stay honest with ourselves and with society.

    We don’t get credit for everything we do — and that’s okay. Doing what’s right isn’t about recognition; it’s about integrity.

    Take care.