We often talk about the good times. We ask about the best part of a trip and express joy and excitement easily, especially on social media. We share photos and videos to show how much we enjoyed ourselves, even down to the meals we ate.
It’s easy to discuss happy moments and recognize those emotions in others. We are raised in a world where happiness is prioritized, often by well-meaning parents. But this comes at a cost. The world isn’t a magical place where everyone is happy and carefree all the time. Sooner or later, we all face reality.
Terrible things happen, and terrible people exist. This isn’t pessimism; it’s reality. While joy, excitement, and gratitude are important, we must also express our pain and sorrow. As parents, we need to allow children to feel sadness, frustration, anger, and resentment. This applies to adults too. We shouldn’t hide our shame and embarrassment but share it with trusted family and friends in private, intimate conversations. Social media can’t offer genuine support—it’s often superficial.
Pain is inevitable. We must face it to overcome it, understand ourselves, and see what lies beyond. Talking about pain helps us make sense of it. Through intimate conversations, we receive feedback and clarity. Even if some conversations doesn’t provide all the answers, trying to understand is what matters.
It takes courage to talk about pain because it exposes our vulnerability. It’s uncomfortable for both parties. How long the pain lasts depends on our willingness to confront it but it is temporary. The first honest conversation about pain often brings the most relief, like a weight lifted from our chest.
Talking about pain doesn’t make us miserable or pessimistic. In the long term, it enlightens us, leading to forgiveness and true happiness. By understanding pain, we discover what joy means to us. Ignoring pain leaves us uncertain about our emotions.
Talk about your pain when it comes. It’s the only way to get through it and grow stronger.
Take care.