What does it mean to be perfect? Does it mean being flawless, admired by everyone, and free from worry? Perfection has many standards and is highly subjective, differing for each individual. What may seem perfect to one person might not be the same for another. So, how can we measure perfection if it varies from one person to the next? If we all have different definitions, then perfection itself becomes unattainable.
We should embrace imperfection and focus on the process rather than aiming for perfect outcomes. During the process, we should strive to do our best and be willing to share the results, no matter how imperfect they may be. Focusing too much on small details, especially when trying something new, can hold us back. It’s better to take action now than to wait for the perfect moment, as there is much more to be learned from action than from inaction.
You need to realize that your mistakes do not define you, and that perfection stifles curiosity. If you believe something must be done perfectly, you may feel there’s no point in trying at all. This mindset can lead to missed opportunities, fuelled by a lack of confidence.
Perfectionism can break you down, causing anxiety and stress. As Brené Brown writes in Atlas of the Heart, “Where perfectionism exists, shame is always lurking.” Shame arises because when we aim for perfection and inevitably fall short, we feel as though we’ve failed. We often believe we could have done better. Perfectionism focuses on what others think of us—something entirely out of our control. While we can’t escape feelings of shame, embarrassment, or judgment, we can use these emotions to guide us in a healthier direction. By acknowledging their presence, we lessen their power over us. As Brown notes, “Life paralysis” refers to all the opportunities we miss because we’re too afraid to put anything out into the world that could be imperfect. Don’t let perfection control your life.
Letting go of perfection and embracing curiosity is key. Curiosity allows you to shift your mindset from “I should be able to do this” to “Why can’t I do this?” It changes the narrative from “If I can’t do it exceptionally well, there’s no point in trying” to “What am I missing to achieve this?” This shift helps you view failures as learning opportunities. Cultivating a mindset of self-improvement means focusing on yourself, rather than worrying about what others might think. Focus on what you can control.
Remember, no one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes—no one escapes that in life.
Take care.